Thursday, November 28, 2013

Three Thankfuls




Our Thanksgiving tradition is to state three things for which we are thankful. The person that goes first doesn’t have to worry about repeating someone else’s thankful and having to come up with a new on the fly. So here are the three things I’m thankful for this year.

1. The love and support of an amazing wife for the last nearly 35 years. I know I can be a bit of a trial sometimes, and I’ve certainly given her ample reminders of that, but she keeps on keeping me on track. Sarah has been the prime factor in raising:

2.  Two great sons who have turned into fine, productive, self sufficient, responsible, contributing men. They're still work in progress (aren’t we all?) but looking to the future, there’s no doubt that these guys will leave a mark.

3.  Finally, I thankful that I’ve learned to be grateful for what I have, which is abundant, and not to worry about what I don’t have and probably never will. I’m healthy, I live in a nice house, I eat and drink well, and have a degree of security that most people in the world can only imagine.

Life is good. 

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Good Old Dog


At the end it was very quick and apparently painless. The folks at the vet hospital were kind and understanding and didn’t make us feel like criminals. We decided to put Maggie to sleep, and I think it was the right decision, but it still feels a little like killing your best friend.

She was never much of a classically “good” dog in the sense of one that actually did what you asked her to. She’s probably the only dog I’ve ever had that didn’t come running enthusiastically when I called and wouldn’t really stick very close unless she was on a leash. We were always afraid she would take off and not come back, so she always had to be on a leash, even in Truckee.

But she was affectionate and happy and loyal and loving, and so what if the only trick she would do was to sit when you waved enough food at her to get her attention. She was this big mass of yellow hair that was in perpetual motion from puppyhood to late middle age. She loved people. Any people.

She was a Labrador who wasn’t fond of jumping into water. She liked water enough, but it needed to be a more gradual entrance, a little slope please, not the heedless jump into the unknown that her predecessors Friday and Lazarus used to do. She was a little more reserved than that.

She wanted to know what was in it for her. In the matter of cookies, if you tried to bribe her with the small size milk bone, she would study and weigh the the cost benefit balance and she might not go for it. She required a large size if she was going to do anything notable, like come in the house after she got out front.

She was a puppy when she came home with us, and, in dog years, by the time she left she was over 93. She still had all her teeth, and up until Monday she would still dance at 4:30 am for her morning biscuits, still wag her tail and smile when we came home (if she woke up), and still seemed to be happy and enjoying life.

Something happened on Monday and she started falling over and was having trouble getting up. We think maybe she had a stroke. By Tuesday afternoon it was apparent that we were going to have to make the decision. Sarah called me at work to come home and I got a ride because I wasn’t going to make it with the bike in time to get her to the vet.

We stayed with her while the vet did his thing. It was quick and painless. In the end she looked like she was truly sleeping.

Now it feels strange not to hear her snoring and the click of her nails on the floor. Not having to climb over her or worry about whether it’s time to feed her. When I got up this morning I didn’t take her out before I started my tea water. A member of the family, part of the daily routine of our lives, is gone.

We’ll miss her.

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Last Refuge of a Scoundrel

Maggie, the superannuated dog who normally just mopes around these days, was going nuts last night over by the Bradford pear tree. Jumping, snarling, hackles straight up. We haven’t seen behavior like this since the last time my ex sister-in-law came to dinner.

Getting up from the dinner table to investigate, I found ole Possum hiding behind the flag. Sort of a metaphorical tea partier I guess.


Tuesday, March 2, 2010

You've Been Flamingoed

Out for a bike ride in the neighborhood on Sunday we ran across this tableau. The sign says "You've been flamingoed" but gives no hint of who has been flamingoed by whom or why.

One supposes that when one has been flamingoed, one knows perfectly well who did it and why. No explanation is due to others.

Friday, November 13, 2009

Fun Facts About Peter the Great

I worked the CSETs Saturday and had a history teacher’s room. The walls were covered with the kind of posters that teachers assign now instead of term papers or other contributors to literacy. The posters consisted of bullet points about notable people in history such as Louis XIV, Maria Theresa, Elizabeth I of England, and Peter the Great of Russia. The point of the assignment doesn’t appear to be to have the students learn anything meaningful, either about history or about how to research a topic. It seems like it was more an opportunity for the Future of the Planet to sniff the various colored markers that they use to produce the posters. Some of them appear to be group projects. We are teaching the kids how to create a Power Point slide.

Peter the Great was the closest to my desk, so I was able to learn a lot about this most remarkable ruler of all the Russias. To wit:

· Peter the Great was born in 1622 and died in 1725
· The next poster gave his DOB as 1972.
· He became Czar in 1682 while still a child, this was also the year of his first marriage, and he had 11 children.
· In 1696 he became the sole Star of Russia; prior to that year he had co-starred with his brother.
· He established the first Russian Navy.
· He took Russia out of the Dork Ages and brought forth modern science. (That may explain some of the time travel and other remarkable achievements. Well, not the dork part.)
· His second marriage was in 1712.
· He founded St. Petersburg in 1703 and died one year later.

Who says we’re raising a nation of uhliterates? I bet many of these kids are really good at Grand Theft Auto and World of Warcraft.

And the teachers? They should be nothing if not proud.

No Child Left Behind, indeed.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Grampa and the Gopher

This story based is on family lore that I heard from my mother. She was not present for these events, so I cant vouch for the accuracy of it all, but it is substantially what I heard. It is the first of an occasional series on my family history.


Florence Hayden Taft, was the matriarch of my mother’s family. She had married Max Taft in 1901 or so, and had spent most of the rest of his life regretting it. Max was a player, and Florence was the girl he always came back to.

Florence and Max were from old families that came west after the gold rush and were involved in retail merchandise dry goods. Dunham, Carrigan and Hayden was a hardware company in San Francisco, and Taft and Pennoyer was a dry goods company in Oakland. They had five children and lived in Oakland, but Max was never happy working in the family firm. He preferred the physical outdoors life, and apparently a fair amount of the physical life indoors as well. In 1910 they found a piece of property on the Truckee River that they purchased, according to family lore, for around $300 from the Floriston Lumber Co. This is where they built their house.

Max was born around 1880 and had a comfortable life materially, but at some point he began to feel constricted and dissatisfied. He became a drinker at college in Berkeley, if not before. He also became a “womanizer.” His youthful rebellion degraded quickly and he became the black sheep of the family. He married Florence 1901, but not before his family had shipped him off to Hawaii to try to straighten him out. He idolized Florence, but ran around with loose women and drunks.

From Hawaii Max wrote frequent and eloquent love letters to Florence. At the same time he kept a diary describing his drinking bouts and the time he spent with a notorious divorcee. He appears to have had a classic need to have simultaneously an Angel (Florence) and a harlot, and in those days one woman couldn’t fill both roles.

Over the course of their marriage Max and Florence had four girls and one boy and Max had several affairs and sunk even deeper into alcoholism. His diaries show a picture of an unhappy man tormented by his conflicts who eventually died early from his drinking.

The one place where Max seemed to feel at peace was in Truckee. He loved being in the woods. He camped and hunted and fished. He did most of the stonework on the grounds himself, he tended the lawns and the flowerbeds and he was very protective of his turf.

Florence was a good Episcopal Church Lady. Most likely she was a pillar. The Northern California diocese maintains an outdoor chapel in Tahoe City for summer services and the Bishop would preside at the Chapel in the Pines whenever he was vacationing at the lake.

Pillar that she was, Florence was naturally on friendly terms with the Bishop. So one summer after the house was built Florence invited Bishop Porter to the River for lunch. She also asked Max to attend.

Max was less a pillar of the church than a broken window, and he didn’t want to come. He wanted to lay in wait to try to catch a particularly destructive gopher that was tearing up the front lawn. Apparently there was some negotiation and a compromise, because Max eventually agreed to come -- on the condition that he be allowed to keep his shotgun with him in case the gopher showed up.

On the day that Bishop Porter came for lunch the family and their guests were assembled on the front porch, looking out over the river, and my grandmother asked the Bishop to say a prayer. The Bishop obliged, and as he was getting to the end, somewhere in between the Father, Son and Holy Ghost, a shot rang out from the porch.

Max had bagged his gopher.

Friday, March 27, 2009

Spring has sprung


Morning is my favorite time of the day. It always seems like there is a promise of something new and exciting as the sun rises and most of the world is still asleep. Watching the dancing mist on the river is a special treat that most don’t see.

Spring is my favorite time of the year. You come out of the long (in California, metaphorically) winter and the world is starting to warm up and new life is starting to show. The trees are putting on their electric green new foliage, the grass is green and tall, and anything seems possible just around the next corner.

I rode to work again yesterday and today, and it feels great. I haven’t been riding for at least 2 months because of rain, vacation and then getting sick, so I have porked back up and need to get some of the weight back off. Riding also helps my energy level and my sense of well being. Lord knows these days we all need as much sense of well-being as we can get.

I’ve pioneered a new route. Well, not a new route so much as a long alternate return route. I still come in to the office the same way, through the Parkway to Rancho, cross Folsom and Light Rail at Coloma and over the freeway at White Rock Park pedestrian bridge. On the way home though, I go out of the office park to Kilgore Road where I cross Folsom and go under the freeway and turn toward the parkway. Rancho is still the least friendly bike riding spot around, but at least the streets in this part are wider.

I enter the parkway at El Manto where the American River breaks into the San Juan Rapids. Now I get to enjoy the bike path and the natural surroundings. Yesterday I saw a herd of deer taking their ease in the afternoon shade, watching the human parade, knowing that they are in a protected environment, having no reason for fear. I also saw a couple of turkeys, numerous ground squirrels and the ubiquitous Canada geese that no longer migrate. I mean, why leave when you can have such a nice deal here. I think they are probably considering changing their citizenship.

So what could be better than an energizing bike ride on a fresh spring morning?